Simple Date Night

Jarrod and I had a date night tonight. We went to the Fleur theater and saw The Shape Of Water and then went to Buzzard Billyโ€™s for supper. A great night out!

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We got to see Malia today. Sheโ€™s getting so big! Sheโ€™s crawling now, has a tooth, and such gorgeous curly hair! She didnโ€™t recognize Jarrod or me anymore but Iโ€™m hoping we will see her more often.

All Ready

As of February 23rd, all of my patient information, all of my registration paperwork, all of my medical history and even my pre-payment for my surgery was taken care of – done and out of the way. Flights were booked. Hotel was reserved. It was a very stressful week that, by Friday, felt like a whirlwind. Similar to when we got married 10 days after we confessed feelings for one another. Everything just moved so fast.

Then, Jarrod and I took a much-needed weekend to decompress. We went to dinner and a movie on Friday evening, and just relaxed for the weekend. No talks of money, no talks of travel arrangements, no talks of medical services. The only talks we had surrounding the issue were our hopes and dreams for this little life that has yet to come.

I’m not going to sugar-coat anything…. to be honest I’m scared. I mean, Jarrod and I have both had tons of experience with babies, with our own kids growing up as far as teenagers so far. He has experience with children that are grown, as he raised his ex-stepchildren before his own. But thinking about being responsible for a baby all over again… the diapers, the sleepless nights, the childcare, the 100% dependence on us and no independence at all… its intimidating. I have deeply adjusted to having my freedom. Its something I’ve only had for the last year or so. I can come and go as I please, I can work and go out without having to worry so much about childcare or any of that. My kids can cook and entertain themselves. And now we’re going to start over. Don’t get me wrong, having a baby with Jarrod is something I WANT very much. Its just intimidating.

I think despite my concerns, having a baby at this point in life, with the experience we both have, and the simple fact that we have each other to lean on and share responsibilities with, will make all the difference. I think it will be easier than I expect because all I’ve really known is single-parenthood. When I was younger and had my boys, I never had the loving, ideal relationship, or stable income and home life. Having that with Jarrod, I think this will be an amazing experience. Not only do we get to create a new life that we get to create together… but we get to give the girls AND the boys a new baby brother or sister. This will unify our family as one.

Jarrod and I expect that once my surgery is done, and then he can get his as well, it won’t take us long to conceive. Even though I am considered to be of “advanced maternal age,” he and I were both very fertile before our surgeries. I’m sure it won’t take more than a couple cycles to become pregnant. I can’t wait to be pregnant. I can’t wait to get this started.

Tax Season

The USA is buzzing with excitement over tax returns right now. Everyone gets to go out and buy a brand new TV, new video game systems and other electronics, they’re getting new tattoos, clothes, vehicles, etc. Most other years I was right there with the general public and giving all that tax money directly to the local retail stores. But this year, it’s different.

Yes, we got a tax return, but we aren’t going and getting all the latest gadgets.

The ONE thing we had promised the kids we would do this year is go on a vacation. We were discussing Florida, and everyone was quite excited about it. Unfortunately, when we found out that my unemployment payments in 2017 cut into our refund more than I ever knew it would, we had to flush the dream of a family vacation on the beach right down the toilet (along with creating some guilt for both Jarrod and I for having to break that promise).

We had to face facts: the best we could do is keep paying our monthly bills with a small boost so we didn’t fall behind, and plan a mini-vacation closer to home. So now we are looking at resort-style hotels within Iowa to go spend a night or two. There is one place a couple hours away that has laser tag, bowling, go karts, an arcade, and an indoor water park that we’re looking into. It sounds pretty fun to me, and the kids all seem to be on board with that idea. But if for some reason that doesn’t work out or ends up being out of our price range, we’ll just stick to the Iowa State Fair later this summer, and perhaps a visit to Adventureland, our local amusement park.

I’d be lying if I said I was not disappointed, myself. I have visited Florida the last 2 years, and I LOVE it there. The ocean is spectacular. I know for a fact 2 of my boys were really looking forward to going, and the girls seem rather let down that we aren’t going, as well. But as it stands, we will just have to settle for Iowa. As long as we can have fun together as a family, that is what REALLY matters, right?

Those are my thoughts for today. Not all blog posts can be sunshine and rainbows… this IS real life afterall. ๐Ÿ™‚ And if you’re an Iowa native and have any suggestions for awesome family fun within the state, please leave a comment/suggestion for us to look into. Thanks in advance.

Planning

After shopping around for tubal reversal surgeons, submitting my records to a few different specialists throughout the country, and being shot down by one for sure, possibly a second… I got approval by Dr. Monteith in Raleigh, NC. As of today, my tentative surgery date is April 6, 2018. I will be having a Filshie clip removal and reanastomosis of my tubes. Jarrod and I will be traveling to North Carolina by plane (my first flight EVER!) and staying in a hotel for a couple of nights. The first day there I will have a pre-op appointment. The second day there, I will have the surgery. The third day there I will have my follow-up appointment and we will be able to fly home. Attempts at conception can begin “whenever I feel ready,” according to A Personal Choice website information.

However, Jarrod and I have decided that while we allow my tubes time to heal, he will wait to get his vasectomy reversed until May or June. We still plan to go to the Oklahoma based surgeon for that procedure, likely by car since it’s only about a 7 1/2 hour drive.

This is only day 4 of actually research, submitting forms and paperwork, and phone calls and already we have a lot accomplished. Tomorrow morning I will be going over some more of my medical information with A Personal Choice nurses, and my surgery schedule will be made official. The next steps after that are completing some lab tests, booking airline tickets, booking the hotel, budgeting food and possible light entertainment in Raleigh (maybe dinner and a movie), and finding a way to and from the airports.

Jarrod and I are beyond excited!!! I wanted to have my tubes reversed years ago, but at this point I am VERY glad I never did. I waited for the right man to come into my life to show me what a great dad he already is, and most certainly will be to a child we share. And he said he never really thought about having more babies until he and I got together, and now it’s all he can think about. This future baby of ours is so very lucky to have 2 very adoring parents, who love each other very much and are already established in parenthood and life in general, and also lucky to have 6 big brothers and sisters, and grandparents who are awesome as well.

…Although the siblings and grandparents, other family members and friends (and blog followers) will NEVER know about any of this story until we succeed in getting me pregnant. It’s our little secret.

my life as a mom… again….

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